This month, we will feature nine adoptive moms who prove that love transcends a biological connection. Read their stories and become inspired to make a difference in the lives of foster kids.
Bethany Wright-Goetzinger, mother of Charlotte, Patrick, and Richard
Becoming a parent is probably one of the scariest endeavors a person can undertake. I think this is true whether you are creating your family biologically or through foster care/adoption. As a new foster parent, one of my biggest concerns was whether or not I would be able to build a personal connection with a child that I did not know. I have found that this is far easier to do than I realized, it just requires intentionality on my part.
Finding common interests or learning about something your kiddo is into, is crucial to the bonding process. This has helped me build stronger relationships with my adopted sons and biological daughter. I also feared that I might love my daughter differently than my sons. I found that I do, but not because of our biology. I love each of my kids differently because they are all special and unique in their own ways.
My favorite thing is having special days with each of my kiddos. We spend the whole day together doing what they are interested in. My children have taught me to be more patient, and thoughtful and to be a better listener. When I tell people that we adopted our sons through foster care a common response I get is “Oh, they are so lucky to have you.” This is 100% false. Fostering may be the most selfish thing I have ever done (though I didn’t realize that when I started). My sons, along with the other foster kiddos I have been able to spend time with, have made my life fuller and richer than it could have ever been otherwise.
Thanks for sharing your story Beth!
P.S. Making a difference in the lives of our SJ families and kids is simple: donate, become a respite provider, or a foster parent.
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