This month, we will feature nine adoptive moms who prove that love transcends a biological connection. Read their stories and become inspired to make a difference in the lives of foster kids.
What is your fondest memory of being Arte’s mom?
Arte was having a really hard time one day. I went up to their room to check on them and they were just so upset. They said they felt like they were a burden. I stopped them and told Arte, “You are not a burden. I am your mom and I want to take care of you.” Arte had the most puzzled look on their face, and then said, “Really?” It was the best moment, because even though they were having such a hard time, it might have been the first time they realized that someone wanted to take care of them.
How has your adoption experience changed you?
Adoption has opened my heart in ways I could not have imagined. Adoptive parenthood demands the best of you.
What has motherhood taught you about yourself?
It is a profound experience to parent any child, but especially a child you’ve adopted, because you have to prove to them that you are the adult who will not quit. When Arte came home to us, they had been abandoned by nearly every adult in their life. As their mom, it became my mission to show Arte that I was in their corner no matter what.
What would you say to someone who thinks love starts with a biological connection?
The first thing I would say is to think of your best friend and the love you have for that person. Presumably, you are not biologically related, yet you would do anything for them, you love them, and would likely consider them as close as (if not closer) than many biological family members. Deep, unconditional love does not require a biological connection, it only requires people willing to do the work of being a family.
Thanks for sharing your story, Madeline!
P.S. Making a difference in the lives of our SJ families and kids is simple: donate, become a respite provider, or a foster parent.
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